Author: TheDon McCoy

Our intention is to wipe out history. It is no longer necessary to remember the past. We do not need the memories of antiquity. Nor do we find necessary to remember the past traumas and mistakes that were made. We are calling this a Clean Slate World. Any person bringing up historical fact will be punished to the full extent of the law and be placed in a permanent reeducation center for the duration of their natural life. Any person attempting to educate others about the past will be terminated immediately. Please enjoy your bright new future.

___ THE GOVERNMENT

The interesting phenomenon of hearing what you want to hear.

It is often in life that we are faced with a difficult situation, a dilemma that we have difficulty wrapping our heads around. When we reach out for support, we often have an agenda in our minds of what that support should look like. Maybe we are looking at the situation with clear lenses. But often our lenses are a bit foggy or distorted in some way.

We believe that what we are seeing is clear and correct. So when someone offers support in the way of creating a different clarity, we are immediately offended and strike back at the person. It is then that we often choose to interpret the message as hostile and ill-meaning, rather than an attempt at support and understanding. The best course of action is to spend some time reading and trying to understand the message.

Spend some time upon reflection about what the person is trying to say. It will afford you a great amount of possible clarity and understanding rather than reacting in the moment and destroying what support you may have had.

A child needs a parent’s love and guidance

Children need to feel safe in exploring the world around them

When two parents separate

The child still looks to both for support and guidance

To feel safe

When parents dislike each other

The child feels their safety and love diminish

When one parent tries to keep the child from the other

The child suffers more than the parents

When parents cannot say kind words about each other

The child learns what hate is

The child no longer

Feels safe

Think of the child first in all your actions and interactions

Your decisions will have long lasting effect

In the child’s understanding of what love is

Democratic Representative Cory Williams: Representative, is rape the will of God?
Oklahoma State Representative George Faught: Well you know, if you read the Bible there’s actually a couple of circumstances where that happened, and the Lord uses all circumstances. I mean, you can go down that path, but it’s a reality, unfortunately.
CW: Is incest the will of God?
GF: Same answer – doesn’t deal with this bill.
CW: With all due respect, I think it absolutely is on point. You won’t make any exceptions for rape, you won’t make any exceptions for incest in this, and you are proffering divine intervention as the reason why you won’t do that. And so I think it is very important, this body wants to know – myself, personally – whether you believe rape and incest are actually the will of God.
GF: You know, it’s a great question to ask and obviously if it happens in someone’s life, it may not be the best thing that ever happened, you know, but – So you’re saying that God is not sovereign with every activity that happens in someone’s life and can’t use anything and everything in someone’s life, and I disagree with that.

I just don’t understand who this ‘God’ is.

My mind can only come up with one conclusion. Mr. Faught finds the acts of rape and/or incest to be acceptable and a ‘normal’ part of life as (his) God wills it.

This is most frightening.

She: I have lost my love for you

He: I don’t understand?

She: I had just realized that there is no more love left

She: I know this is hard, you haven’t been here for me

He: I work all the time to pay for everything and try to give us a good life

She: You are so demanding and I’ve gotten so depressed and sad

He: I never saw it. Why didn’t you say something?

She: (silence)

He: So where do we go from here?

She: I don’t know, I think I need to move out for a while.

He: (silence)

He: I love you

She: I know you do

He: When was the last time it was good?  When were we happy last?  Do you think we can reach that place again?

She: I don’t know I’m so disillusioned about the whole thing right now.

He: I want to change

She: I can’t trust that you will

He: I love you so much that I need to change, this can’t end like this

She: I’m not sure if this is the end.

She: I just need some time to think and be alone

He: How much time do you need?

She: I haven’t thought of that, yet

He: A week? A month? God, a year??

She: (tears are streaming down her cheek) my God, I don’t want to hurt you

He: (pulls out a kitchen chair and sits down, his shoulders are hunched over. He lets out a deep breath) You are.

She: (Sobbing) I got to go. I’m staying with my sister for the weekend.

He: Please don’t go

She: (Turning toward the door as she picks up her car keys from the table next to him) I love you, I’ll call you in a couple of days.

He turns away and walks into the living room. Hearing the door close he begins to cry.

A child’s memories will not be of the price of the toys or clothes you bought them.

A child’s memories will be of the moments you choose to spend with them doing what you may think is insignificant and childish.

It is in those moments that a child develops their understanding of what being a parent means.

So, how important to you is your influence on their development?

And how do you want your child to describe you after they are grown when they talk with their children?

It has been several years since the term Make America Great Again surfaced from the depths the human ego. I have tried several times to understand what the term means and even have asked proponents of the ‘movement.’ So far, I haven’t been given a clear answer about when America was ever great.

I have assessed the words and action from the MAGA supporters and have come up with a frightening understanding. I believe the era that most supporters are talking about is the 50s and 60s. Was America great then? The 50s was the era after World War II. America was at its strongest economically. We enjoyed huge employment growth and population growth as a result. (Note: War used to create a strong economy, this is no longer true)

Businesses thrived and families were able to buy a home on one income. The excitement of the new model automobiles was a national event. Americans were in charge. Well, most Americans. The 50s was also a time for blatant racism and sexism. The 50s was a time when an adult black man was called ‘boy.’ It was a time when segregation was still happening in some states, and racist remarks ran rampant in all states.

The 50s was a time when a man could hit his wife and not go to jail for it. If the police were called, they recommended that the wife just learn how to behave herself. I’m not saying this was occurring in all marriages, but the idea that women could not find support from abuse is unbelievable. In the 50s most ‘minority’ families found it difficult to buy a house in most ‘white’ communities. Often this was due to the fact that most jobs affording enough income to buy a house were not given to them. The 50s was a time of power and opportunity, but only for those with the right income and the right color skin.

Is this what Make America Great Again means?

I sincerely hope not, but I’m still waiting for an answer…

The sun shined through the blinds. Her dark hair caught the sunlight with golds and light browns. She sat on the couch as the therapist watched her speak. Words emerged but little content was actually spoken. He had asked where she sees herself in ten years. She spoke of wanting to be a Clinical Psychologist. The therapist asked if she understood what was necessary to become one. She spoke for several minutes but really didn’t show she understood the great work and dedication necessary.

The therapist began to explain the process of earning degrees and the work needed to achieve the level of Psychologist. The woman sat there wide-eyed. “Well, that’s too much work for me!” she exclaimed. Maybe I can work as a Nurse’s Aide. The more she described her goals, the more the therapist began to understand that this woman did not want to do any actual work toward a career, but wanted to have all the benefits of one.

He sat in his leather office chair thinking, do I continue to attempt reason with her to try to get her to understand that hard work and dedication was necessary. Or do I blatantly explain to her the same in one hard-hitting sentence that would probably anger her? The therapist chose the latter. The woman blinked a couple of times then opened her mouth the quickly shut it. Her brown eyes were cold. Her lips pursed as she stood up. The therapist did the same. “Well, I guess I will just continue dancing at the Gentlemen’s Club.” She said as she opened the door and left.

Sadly, the therapist realized this was the last session with her.

Sometimes we need to work on things in our life. Sometimes those things are emotional and life-changing. Sometimes we would rather run and hide from them. Sometimes the fear of facing those feelings and the person(s) involved is too overwhelming. What do we do?

Sometimes we remain silent and endure what is bothering us, allowing it to bottle up and build pressure until we cannot take it anymore. Sometimes we choose to run and hide. But where does hiding get us? At most, we are afforded a brief reprieve from the stress. What is stressful does not go away by our attempts at hiding from it.

Eventually, we need to face it. This is how we grow as human beings. If we continue to hide, the stress, that actually is not where we thought we left it but is actually buried deep within our hearts. Eventually, we become old by it. We become old in our hearts and in our souls. Life just seems to pass by and the joy we once felt in life is that much more diminished.

It is time to grow. It is time to face what we have run from. It is time to be better and to be stronger than we ever were before.

You are NOT alone!

DO YOU HATE PEOPLE?

DO YOU HATE GROUPS OF PEOPLE?

DO YOU HATE RACES OF PEOPLE?

WHERE DOES YOUR HATE COME FROM?

CAN YOU DESCRIBE WHEN IT BEGAN?

CAN YOU DESCRIBE WHY YOU HATE?

WAS IT TAUGHT TO YOU BY YOUR PARENTS?

WAS IT REINFORCED BY THE NEWS YOU WATCH ON TV OR THE INTERNET?

IS YOUR HATE BASED ON A RATIONAL AND UNDERSTANDABLE BELIEF?

DOES THE GOD YOU WORSHIP HATE OTHERS?

HOW DEEPLY WOULD YOU LOOK INTO YOUR HEART AND SOUL FOR THESE ANSWERS?

AND FINDING THEM, WOULD YOU BELIEVE WHAT YOUR HEART SAYS?

OR SIMPLY CALL IT FAKE NEWS?

LOVE.