The interesting phenomenon of hearing what you want to hear.
It is often in life that we are faced with a difficult situation, a dilemma that we have difficulty wrapping our heads around. When we reach out for support, we often have an agenda in our minds of what that support should look like. Maybe we are looking at the situation with clear lenses. But often our lenses are a bit foggy or distorted in some way.
We believe that what we are seeing is clear and correct. So when someone offers support in the way of creating a different clarity, we are immediately offended and strike back at the person. It is then that we often choose to interpret the message as hostile and ill-meaning, rather than an attempt at support and understanding. The best course of action is to spend some time reading and trying to understand the message.
Spend some time upon reflection about what the person is trying to say. It will afford you a great amount of possible clarity and understanding rather than reacting in the moment and destroying what support you may have had.
The Journey of a thousand miles 