PART TWO

PART TWO:
Often condescending and abusive remarks appear to be pointing outward. But as the old saying stated: one finger pointed out, three pointed at self. It is most definitely a reflection of self rather than the other. The inner anguish and pain of the abuser becomes so overwhelming that most will, instead of going into reflection, will lash out at an other to relieve some of the pressure. This, of course, is futile and very short-lived.
The best a person can do, witnessing/enduring ongoing abusive behavior, is to understand the background and the source of the hatred. Returning anger further justifies the emotional turmoil and self-loathing. Feeling sympathy and understanding for them is more effective, both for yourself and for them. (often from a distance) Choosing to leave the abuser is the very best option, as they may not learn about their own trauma while in relationship.

Next: The fear of leaving what is known (although horrible) for the unknown.